They didn’t tell you because they didn’t want to “hurt you”. Righto, anyone heard this before? How about these possibilities … They knew what they were doing was wrong They didn’t want to stop doing what they were doing They knew you’d be pissed and they didn’t want to have to deal with uncomfortable feelings… Continue reading 12 Reasons Why They Didn’t Tell You
Tag: Sexual Betrayal
My Two Cents…
Dave and I were recent podcast guests (no, not Laura and Carls 😉 which by the way is absolute gold 🫶🏻) We were guests with the amazing Ali Box from New Community Ringwood in Victoria. Ali is an Associate Pastor who’s not afraid of tackling the difficult topics in her series “Unwanted Sexual Behaviours”. What… Continue reading My Two Cents…
“But What Did You Do?”
Don’t you love it when you’re asked what part you played in your partner cheating on you? Like what did you do or didn’t do to make them act out 🤷♀️ Ummmm oh gosh let me see… I was and am faithful, trustworthy, loyal, committed, loving, kind, compassionate, playful, caring, adventurous, I’m a great cook,… Continue reading “But What Did You Do?”
My Post Traumatic Growth Manifesto
Christmas Eve 2023 marks the 5th anniversary of my life changing forever in ways I never imagined. At first I could barely breathe let alone believe that I would ever write the following words… To anyone on the receiving end of a partners sh**** choices I pray my ramblings offer a glimmer of hope. My… Continue reading My Post Traumatic Growth Manifesto
“He Had it Coming”
Some time ago I wrote The Moment of Impact quoting experiences of many betrayed partners around the world. In my opinion, society, culture and media do a lousy job conveying the reality and intensity of trauma and suffering inflicted upon loved ones in the wake of intimate betrayal. The consequences of infidelity, betrayal and addiction… Continue reading “He Had it Coming”
30th Wedding Anniversary
2/10/1993 was the day we exchanged vows committing our relationship of 3 years to “til death do us part”. Beyond Betrayal; 28 Years, Lies-Deceit-Infidelity tells the whole story. So here we are 30 years married and just over 4 years into recovery, celebrating a milestone that I never thought we’d see after our 2018 separation.… Continue reading 30th Wedding Anniversary
The Most Wonderful Time of the Year ❤️🩹
A wounded heart often struggles to live up to expectations of the Christmas season. If your heart is hurting, grappling to find joy in the midst of trauma, please be kind to yourself. Do what you must do but not more than need to and remember that it’s ok to say “no” to things that… Continue reading The Most Wonderful Time of the Year ❤️🩹
The Secret Sexual Basement
What the heck is this you may ask? The last three years have been quite the learning curve for us as we explore the complexities of infidelity, secrets, lies, duality, and narcissistic abusive behaviours. It’s a learning curve that I never imagined I’d be on—in saying this—I’m thankful that both Dave and I possess a… Continue reading The Secret Sexual Basement
Who or What Do We Hang Our Hope On?
I’d love to begin with a Happy New Year blog but there’s a burden stirring within so I’m going with that! Over the past twelve months, the world of affair recovery has seen three power couples (for the lack of a better term) sorrowfully reach a point of separation. For those of us who have… Continue reading Who or What Do We Hang Our Hope On?
With Humility & Gratitude
This is our final blog post for 2021, and wow, what a year it’s been. On top of becoming a first-time co-author, I studied full time and successfully completed a Diploma of Counselling through the Australian Institute of Family Counselling. I’m planning to put this to work in 2022! Here’s a sneak peek at my… Continue reading With Humility & Gratitude