A couple of weeks ago, following my post Don’t Say a Word, we were going to explore some of the S’s in Ssshh. If you’re following our blog, you’ll recall that Dave had some important information he wanted to share, so today I’ll rewind and begin unpacking some of those ‘S‘ words that rattled aroundContinue reading “What’s in an S?”
Where do unfaithful men and women turn for help when the world around them implodes? Men in particular don’t like asking for directions when we’re lost and believe it or not, betraying my wife is never a road I thought I’d end up on, so if we have no idea how we got here howContinue reading “How Do I Get Out of This Place?”
We had church in our home last Sunday, it was a small intimate gathering with people of deep faith. After everyone left, Dave and I put the furniture back in place and had a couple of hours before meeting friends for lunch. I told Dave I was going upstairs to lay down to read forContinue reading “When is a D-day, not a D-day?”
Why do people think that not talking about affairs and the abusive nature of behaviours surrounding them, will somehow make them magically disappear? The notion of “what they don’t know won’t hurt them” is infuriating. For me personally decades of secrets and deceit actually hurt more than the affairs themselves! Secrets will always be revealedContinue reading “Don’t Say A Word”
We’re 18 months out from a lifetime of deceit. Our marriage and relationship is very different now. We’ve both done a lot of work to get to this place, that doesn’t mean life is perfect. Last weekend was a perfect example of how imperfect we are. We caught up with my extended family for aContinue reading “An unexpected trigger…”
No it wasn’t! A mistake is filling your car with petrol instead of diesel. That’s a mistake… The unfaithful partner made a choice or series of choices which led them to the point of betrayal. Don’t confuse the two and PLEASE don’t believe anyone who tries to tells you otherwise. So, when you hear theContinue reading ““It was a mistake…””
Wow, which one? There’s been plenty of discovery over the years but only one full disclosure. That came twenty eight years after the first discovery. I’ve not met many people who get the whole truth in one go. More commonly the truth is trickled out over time which is repeatedly devastating and only prolongs theContinue reading “D Day”
Thanks for joining us! “When we recover loudly, we keep others from dying quietly” — Unknown “There’s a book in everyone” they say. Why did this have to be ‘our’ book? Seriously, why did this have to happen to me? Why did it have to happen to us? “Why not?” the wise person answered.