Dave and I were recent podcast guests (no, not Laura and Carls š which by the way is absolute gold š«¶š») We were guests with the amazing Ali Box from New Community Ringwood in Victoria. Ali is an Associate Pastor who’s not afraid of tackling the difficult topics in her series “Unwanted Sexual Behaviours”. What… Continue reading My Two Cents…
Category: Abuse
“But What Did You Do?”
Donāt you love it when youāre asked what part you played in your partner cheating on you? Like what did you do or didnāt do to make them act out š¤·āāļø Ummmm oh gosh let me seeā¦ I was and am faithful, trustworthy, loyal, committed, loving, kind, compassionate, playful, caring, adventurous, Iām a great cook,… Continue reading “But What Did You Do?”
Unveiling Truth
Honesty is without a doubt the number one necessity in re-establishing safety post betrayal, without this you’re faced with building your relationship on shifting sands when it requires and deserves rigorous honesty creating the solid bedrock of truth. D Day is a post I wrote in October 2020, I stand by the content while also… Continue reading Unveiling Truth
My Post Traumatic Growth Manifesto
Christmas Eve 2023 marks the 5th anniversary of my life changing forever in ways I never imagined. At first I could barely breathe let alone believe that I would ever write the following words… To anyone on the receiving end of a partners sh**** choices I pray my ramblings offer a glimmer of hope. My… Continue reading My Post Traumatic Growth Manifesto
PornographyāWhy the Big Deal?
Hereās a couple of questions for anyone in a committed relationship consuming porn. N.B. this is not a post with intent to provoke shame rather one that I hope might encourage users to think beyond the obvious. Q. Is your partner fully aware of what youāre doingāhave you casually shared with them that you have… Continue reading PornographyāWhy the Big Deal?
The Power of Choice
It’s been some time since I’ve written and turned up in your inbox so I hope you don’t mind me dropping in unannounced! I’m not sure why, but this memory came to mind today and I thought it might be worth sharing. Also, there’s a recent interview we did for The centre for Men and… Continue reading The Power of Choice
āYouāre lucky itās only pornā š¤Æ
This post comes from a place of deep frustration and anger and Iām never sure whether thatās a good reason to hit publish or not but today itās a yes! Last week I participated in a support group for men and women, all at varying stages of recovery and healing from their partners infidelity. One… Continue reading āYouāre lucky itās only pornā š¤Æ
Hey Affair Partner
I’m not even sure which one I’m writing to at this stage, there’s been a few, so I’m going to start with the ones who knew that the person they became involved with had a partner and a family. If I’m being honest you’re the ones I hold least respect for, you see you knew… Continue reading Hey Affair Partner
The Secret Sexual Basement
What the heck is this you may ask? The last three years have been quite the learning curve for us as we explore the complexities of infidelity, secrets, lies, duality, and narcissistic abusive behaviours. It’s a learning curve that I never imagined I’d be onāin saying thisāI’m thankful that both Dave and I possess a… Continue reading The Secret Sexual Basement
With Humility & Gratitude
This is our final blog post for 2021, and wow, what a year it’s been. On top of becoming a first-time co-author, I studied full time and successfully completed a Diploma of Counselling through the Australian Institute of Family Counselling. I’m planning to put this to work in 2022! Here’s a sneak peek at my… Continue reading With Humility & Gratitude