I’ve always believed that we humans are spiritual beings encompassed in a temporal body, a little similar to an envelope that carries a letter inside. The envelope has a purpose although it’s the letter that contains all of the really important stuff. I’m unashamedly Christian and also unashamedly imperfect. My faith is what has sustainedContinue reading “The Role of Spirituality in Recovery”
The only mistake that will destroy you, is the one you won’t admit to. I’m the last one to call an affair a mistake, I mean earthquakes and cyclones happen, you accidentally step in dog poo or brush your teeth with shaving cream instead of toothpaste, but no one just happens to cheat on theirContinue reading “Becoming Safe”
Relapse, lapse and acting out are all distinctively different behaviours—a lapse like this doesn’t automatically mean that a relationship is ruined. It serves as a reminder as to how sinister the roots of addiction are and also the marathon effort it takes to heal from a lifetime of unhealthy behaviours. What’s needed now is aContinue reading “Real Time Recovery pt 3…”
How difficult was it to write our story? Bloody hard… After decades striving to maintain an image and hide truths, the journey to owning my own story as a cheat, liar and unfaithful husband, has been slow and arduous. I’d done everything within my power to prevent my brokenness from seeing daylight. Even when theContinue reading “Severing Ties”
Ahhhhh the affair partner, how many colourful names do we have for them? The dirty rotten pieces of work that they are—damn home-wreckers who set out to destroy our lives! Are they really? Here’s my theory, it may not be a popular one and at the risk of setting a cat amongst the pigeons, I’mContinue reading “But What About the AP?”
Where do unfaithful men and women turn for help when the world around them implodes? Men in particular don’t like asking for directions when we’re lost and believe it or not, betraying my wife is never a road I thought I’d end up on, so if we have no idea how we got here howContinue reading “How Do I Get Out of This Place?”
For those with no experience in addiction, infidelity or abusive relationships our story will be unrelatable and perhaps shocking. You might ask what on earth would make someone stay in a relationship like that? And if you have walked away from a similar situation, you’ll likely wonder the same. To you it may be weaknessContinue reading “What The?”
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.” You’re Stronger Than You Think!