Here’s a couple of questions for anyone in a committed relationship consuming porn. N.B. this is not a post with intent to provoke shame rather one that I hope might encourage users to think beyond the obvious. Q. Is your partner fully aware of what you’re doing—have you casually shared with them that you have… Continue reading Pornography—Why the Big Deal?
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Grieving The Losses
Grief is a part of life. We lose someone or something we love, it’s a natural human response to mourn and grieve. Usually there’s a process for grief and all grief is valid. When someone we love dies we are generally surrounded by community offering support, bringing meals, running errands, cleaning house, taking care of… Continue reading Grieving The Losses
The Power of Choice
It’s been some time since I’ve written and turned up in your inbox so I hope you don’t mind me dropping in unannounced! I’m not sure why, but this memory came to mind today and I thought it might be worth sharing. Also, there’s a recent interview we did for The centre for Men and… Continue reading The Power of Choice
“You’re lucky it’s only porn” 🤯
This post comes from a place of deep frustration and anger and I’m never sure whether that’s a good reason to hit publish or not but today it’s a yes! Last week I participated in a support group for men and women, all at varying stages of recovery and healing from their partners infidelity. One… Continue reading “You’re lucky it’s only porn” 🤯
Hey Affair Partner
I’m not even sure which one I’m writing to at this stage, there’s been a few, so I’m going to start with the ones who knew that the person they became involved with had a partner and a family. If I’m being honest you’re the ones I hold least respect for, you see you knew… Continue reading Hey Affair Partner
The Most Wonderful Time of the Year ❤️🩹
A wounded heart often struggles to live up to expectations of the Christmas season. If your heart is hurting, grappling to find joy in the midst of trauma, please be kind to yourself. Do what you must do but not more than need to and remember that it’s ok to say “no” to things that… Continue reading The Most Wonderful Time of the Year ❤️🩹
Recovery Resources For Everyone
For anyone new on this journey, my hope is that this post gives you a starting point to find the right support you need and equip you with some tools for the road ahead. A metaphor of what the first 18 months of recovery felt like Our journey of recovery and healing began after I… Continue reading Recovery Resources For Everyone
The Moment of Impact
June Twenty-Sixth marks the 1 year anniversary of Beyond Betrayal, 28 Years; Lies-Deceit-Infidelity book launch. *(At the bottom of this post, there is a link that will give you 50% off eBooks, only available for 24 hours on 26/6/22, please share this post with anyone you think may be interested. Click here for reviews )… Continue reading The Moment of Impact
Cleaning Out The Wound
Dave’s a surfer, he could spend hours in a lineup waiting for his chance to pull into the perfect barrel. Over the years he’s had his fair share of reef kisses. Most parts of his body have either been grazed, scratched, pierced or cut by some form of marine matter. Sea Urchins and broken bits… Continue reading Cleaning Out The Wound
The Secret Sexual Basement
What the heck is this you may ask? The last three years have been quite the learning curve for us as we explore the complexities of infidelity, secrets, lies, duality, and narcissistic abusive behaviours. It’s a learning curve that I never imagined I’d be on—in saying this—I’m thankful that both Dave and I possess a… Continue reading The Secret Sexual Basement