Wow! Our first review on Amazon—5 flipping STARS! Eye-opening (reviewed in the United States on March 18, 2021) “Love is something we do.” “Change creates growth.” These are my two favorite kernels of wisdom from Beyond Betrayal, an eye-opening memoir that imparts precious knowledge about love, long-term relationships, infidelity, and trauma.* The book begins with… Continue reading ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
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What Are The Odds?
As people of faith, we’ve come to expect the unexpected, and often experience unusual coincidences/situations when we’re on the cusp of doing something that might ruffle a few feathers. So, it came as no surprise when we were faced with a mildly awkward situation on Wednesday. Our book is ready for release, Dave and I… Continue reading What Are The Odds?
Free eBook Download—48 Hours* Only!
Who doesn’t love a freebie? Yes, it’s finally here. Dave and I are almost ready to release our Memoir, BEYOND BETRAYAL 28 Years, LIES-DECEIT-INFIDELITY. A story taking 30 years to create and 2 years to write. As promised you get to read it first with your very own advanced reader copy eBook. This link to… Continue reading Free eBook Download—48 Hours* Only!
The Art of Conflict
Dr John Gottman of the Gottman Relationship Institute identifies the greatest predictors of divorce as, “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. These horsemen are, criticism and contempt defensiveness and stonewalling. Dave and I hit an area of conflict last night and all I will say is that the four horsemen were well and truly going… Continue reading The Art of Conflict
Secrets, Seduction, Silence, Shame
Sssshhh… grab yourself a cuppa and click away—there’s some good links in this one. Secrets Is it bad to keep secrets? What harm could possibly come? Dr John Gottman says “When you’re keeping secrets, you’re hurting your own ability to love”. Seduction Seduce my mind and you can have my body, find my soul and… Continue reading Secrets, Seduction, Silence, Shame
What’s in an S?
A couple of weeks ago, following my post Don’t Say a Word, we were going to explore some of the S’s in Ssshh. If you’re following our blog, you’ll recall that Dave had some important information he wanted to share, so today I’ll rewind and begin unpacking some of those ‘S‘ words that rattled around… Continue reading What’s in an S?
When is a D-day, not a D-day?
We had church in our home last Sunday, it was a small intimate gathering with people of deep faith. After everyone left, Dave and I put the furniture back in place and had a couple of hours before meeting friends for lunch. I told Dave I was going upstairs to lay down to read for… Continue reading When is a D-day, not a D-day?
Don’t Say A Word
Why do people think that not talking about affairs and the abusive nature of behaviours surrounding them, will somehow make them magically disappear? The notion of “what they don’t know won’t hurt them” is infuriating. For me personally decades of secrets and deceit actually hurt more than the affairs themselves! Secrets will always be revealed… Continue reading Don’t Say A Word
What The?
For those with no experience in addiction, infidelity or abusive relationships our story will be unrelatable and perhaps shocking. You might ask what on earth would make someone stay in a relationship like that? And if you have walked away from a similar situation, you’ll likely wonder the same. To you it may be weakness… Continue reading What The?
An unexpected trigger…
We’re 18 months out from a lifetime of deceit. Our marriage and relationship is very different now. We’ve both done a lot of work to get to this place, that doesn’t mean life is perfect. Last weekend was a perfect example of how imperfect we are. We caught up with my extended family for a… Continue reading An unexpected trigger…