Don’t you love it when you’re asked what part you played in your partner cheating on you? Like what did you do or didn’t do to make them act out 🤷♀️ Ummmm oh gosh let me see… I was and am faithful, trustworthy, loyal, committed, loving, kind, compassionate, playful, caring, adventurous, I’m a great cook,Continue reading ““But What Did You Do?””
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Rising From The Ashes
I recently travelled to Canada for a couple of weeks for a long overdue catch up with our darling girl who’s been living there for the past 18months, man I miss her! Anyhoo, apart from Vancouver & Whistler we spent four nights exploring around Canmore and travelled the Icefields Parkway. WOW WOW WOW! How spectacularContinue reading “Rising From The Ashes”
Unveiling Truth
Honesty is without a doubt the number one necessity in re-establishing safety post betrayal, without this you’re faced with building your relationship on shifting sands when it requires and deserves rigorous honesty creating the solid bedrock of truth. D Day is a post I wrote in October 2020, I stand by the content while alsoContinue reading “Unveiling Truth”
My Post Traumatic Growth Manifesto
Christmas Eve 2023 marks the 5th anniversary of my life changing forever in ways I never imagined. At first I could barely breathe let alone believe that I would ever write the following words… To anyone on the receiving end of a partners sh**** choices I pray my ramblings offer a glimmer of hope. MyContinue reading “My Post Traumatic Growth Manifesto”
“He Had it Coming”
Some time ago I wrote The Moment of Impact quoting experiences of many betrayed partners around the world. In my opinion, society, culture and media do a lousy job conveying the reality and intensity of trauma and suffering inflicted upon loved ones in the wake of intimate betrayal. The consequences of infidelity, betrayal and addictionContinue reading ““He Had it Coming””
30th Wedding Anniversary
2/10/1993 was the day we exchanged vows committing our relationship of 3 years to “til death do us part”. Beyond Betrayal; 28 Years, Lies-Deceit-Infidelity tells the whole story. So here we are 30 years married and just over 4 years into recovery, celebrating a milestone that I never thought we’d see after our 2018 separation.Continue reading “30th Wedding Anniversary”
Pornography—Why the Big Deal?
Here’s a couple of questions for anyone in a committed relationship consuming porn. N.B. this is not a post with intent to provoke shame rather one that I hope might encourage users to think beyond the obvious. Q. Is your partner fully aware of what you’re doing—have you casually shared with them that you haveContinue reading “Pornography—Why the Big Deal?”
Grieving The Losses
Grief is a part of life. We lose someone or something we love, it’s a natural human response to mourn and grieve. Usually there’s a process for grief and all grief is valid. When someone we love dies we are generally surrounded by community offering support, bringing meals, running errands, cleaning house, taking care ofContinue reading “Grieving The Losses”
“You’re lucky it’s only porn” 🤯
This post comes from a place of deep frustration and anger and I’m never sure whether that’s a good reason to hit publish or not but today it’s a yes! Last week I participated in a support group for men and women, all at varying stages of recovery and healing from their partners infidelity. OneContinue reading ““You’re lucky it’s only porn” 🤯”
Hey Affair Partner
I’m not even sure which one I’m writing to at this stage, there’s been a few, so I’m going to start with the ones who knew that the person they became involved with had a partner and a family. If I’m being honest you’re the ones I hold least respect for, you see you knewContinue reading “Hey Affair Partner”