*Content warning; this is a creative writing piece describing how the first 18 months of recovery felt for me, I’ve used some strong imagery that may be an emotional trigger for others who are on a similar journey. Please proceed with caution. You’re cruising down a long straight stretch of country road in this car… Continue reading The Infidelity Car Crash; The Carnage of Infidelity
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But What About the AP?
Ahhhhh the affair partner, how many colourful names do we have for them? The dirty rotten pieces of work that they are—damn home-wreckers who set out to destroy our lives! Are they really? Here’s my theory, it may not be a popular one and at the risk of setting a cat amongst the pigeons, I’m… Continue reading But What About the AP?
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Wow! Our first review on Amazon—5 flipping STARS! Eye-opening (reviewed in the United States on March 18, 2021) “Love is something we do.” “Change creates growth.” These are my two favorite kernels of wisdom from Beyond Betrayal, an eye-opening memoir that imparts precious knowledge about love, long-term relationships, infidelity, and trauma.* The book begins with… Continue reading ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
What Are The Odds?
As people of faith, we’ve come to expect the unexpected, and often experience unusual coincidences/situations when we’re on the cusp of doing something that might ruffle a few feathers. So, it came as no surprise when we were faced with a mildly awkward situation on Wednesday. Our book is ready for release, Dave and I… Continue reading What Are The Odds?
Free eBook Download—48 Hours* Only!
Who doesn’t love a freebie? Yes, it’s finally here. Dave and I are almost ready to release our Memoir, BEYOND BETRAYAL 28 Years, LIES-DECEIT-INFIDELITY. A story taking 30 years to create and 2 years to write. As promised you get to read it first with your very own advanced reader copy eBook. This link to… Continue reading Free eBook Download—48 Hours* Only!
The Art of Conflict
Dr John Gottman of the Gottman Relationship Institute identifies the greatest predictors of divorce as, “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. These horsemen are, criticism and contempt defensiveness and stonewalling. Dave and I hit an area of conflict last night and all I will say is that the four horsemen were well and truly going… Continue reading The Art of Conflict
Secrets, Seduction, Silence, Shame
Sssshhh… grab yourself a cuppa and click away—there’s some good links in this one. Secrets Is it bad to keep secrets? What harm could possibly come? Dr John Gottman says “When you’re keeping secrets, you’re hurting your own ability to love”. Seduction Seduce my mind and you can have my body, find my soul and… Continue reading Secrets, Seduction, Silence, Shame
What’s in an S?
A couple of weeks ago, following my post Don’t Say a Word, we were going to explore some of the S’s in Ssshh. If you’re following our blog, you’ll recall that Dave had some important information he wanted to share, so today I’ll rewind and begin unpacking some of those ‘S‘ words that rattled around… Continue reading What’s in an S?
When is a D-day, not a D-day?
We had church in our home last Sunday, it was a small intimate gathering with people of deep faith. After everyone left, Dave and I put the furniture back in place and had a couple of hours before meeting friends for lunch. I told Dave I was going upstairs to lay down to read for… Continue reading When is a D-day, not a D-day?
Don’t Say A Word
Why do people think that not talking about affairs and the abusive nature of behaviours surrounding them, will somehow make them magically disappear? The notion of “what they don’t know won’t hurt them” is infuriating. For me personally decades of secrets and deceit actually hurt more than the affairs themselves! Secrets will always be revealed… Continue reading Don’t Say A Word