What the heck is this you may ask? The last three years have been quite the learning curve for us as we explore the complexities of infidelity, secrets, lies, duality, and narcissistic abusive behaviours. It’s a learning curve that I never imagined I’d be on—in saying this—I’m thankful that both Dave and I possess a… Continue reading The Secret Sexual Basement
Author: noniy
The Role of Spirituality in Recovery
I’ve always believed that we humans are spiritual beings encompassed in a temporal body, a little similar to an envelope that carries a letter inside. The envelope has a purpose although it’s the letter that contains all of the really important stuff. I’m unashamedly Christian and also unashamedly imperfect. My faith is what has sustained… Continue reading The Role of Spirituality in Recovery
Original Preface
Our harshest critic aka most constructive Beta Reader gave the feedback that this preface was “good but too long…” So although some of what you’re about to read is in our final copy, this is the entire unedited version that didn’t make the cut. I hope you can take something of value away from it.… Continue reading Original Preface
Affair Recovery
Why a specialist approach is essential to healing from infidelity. Read more… You can’t mend a broken bone with a bandaid, please don’t rely on basic marriage counselling to lead your affair recovery.
Who or What Do We Hang Our Hope On?
I’d love to begin with a Happy New Year blog but there’s a burden stirring within so I’m going with that! Over the past twelve months, the world of affair recovery has seen three power couples (for the lack of a better term) sorrowfully reach a point of separation. For those of us who have… Continue reading Who or What Do We Hang Our Hope On?
With Humility & Gratitude
This is our final blog post for 2021, and wow, what a year it’s been. On top of becoming a first-time co-author, I studied full time and successfully completed a Diploma of Counselling through the Australian Institute of Family Counselling. I’m planning to put this to work in 2022! Here’s a sneak peek at my… Continue reading With Humility & Gratitude
Anniversaries & Triggers
Anniversaries and triggers are a painful reality following any traumatic event. Reactions can be variable depending on timing and circumstances, reminders are pretty much unavoidable—triggers may come from out of the blue and can be damn intense, to say the least. We, humans, are an interesting species, we need to attach meaning to almost everything,… Continue reading Anniversaries & Triggers
Is it as Hopeless as it Seems?
The initial discovery of your relationship being rocked by infidelity will feel completely overwhelming and catastrophic. Both of you will likely experience` everything from shock, denial, rage, despair, disbelief, loathing, anger and then there’s the shame of it all. If you’re anything like me, you might feel that there is absolutely no hope for the… Continue reading Is it as Hopeless as it Seems?
Dear Unfaithful
Dear unfaithful, There’s probably a lot in this that you’re not going to want to hear—but you really need to if you want to begin to understand what’s happened. Imagine that you’ve just dropped a nuclear bomb on your marriage, your spouse, yourself and your family. The world as you once knew has been annihilated—napalmed—and… Continue reading Dear Unfaithful
Dearest Betrayed
You didn’t deserve this… You did nothing to cause it and there is nothing that you could have done differently to prevent it from happening. Your partners’ betrayal had nothing to do with you, heck it didn’t even have anything to do with the other person/s or object/s they chose to betray you with. So… Continue reading Dearest Betrayed