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Tag: Betrayal Trauma
Who or What Do We Hang Our Hope On?
I’d love to begin with a Happy New Year blog but there’s a burden stirring within so I’m going with that! Over the past twelve months, the world of affair recovery has seen three power couples (for the lack of a better term) sorrowfully reach a point of separation. For those of us who have… Continue reading Who or What Do We Hang Our Hope On?
With Humility & Gratitude
This is our final blog post for 2021, and wow, what a year it’s been. On top of becoming a first-time co-author, I studied full time and successfully completed a Diploma of Counselling through the Australian Institute of Family Counselling. I’m planning to put this to work in 2022! Here’s a sneak peek at my… Continue reading With Humility & Gratitude
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Anniversaries & Triggers
Anniversaries and triggers are a painful reality following any traumatic event. Reactions can be variable depending on timing and circumstances, reminders are pretty much unavoidable—triggers may come from out of the blue and can be damn intense, to say the least. We, humans, are an interesting species, we need to attach meaning to almost everything,… Continue reading Anniversaries & Triggers
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Dear Unfaithful
Dear unfaithful, There’s probably a lot in this that you’re not going to want to hear—but you really need to if you want to begin to understand what’s happened. Imagine that you’ve just dropped a nuclear bomb on your marriage, your spouse, yourself and your family. The world as you once knew has been annihilated—napalmed—and… Continue reading Dear Unfaithful
Dearest Betrayed
You didn’t deserve this… You did nothing to cause it and there is nothing that you could have done differently to prevent it from happening. Your partners’ betrayal had nothing to do with you, heck it didn’t even have anything to do with the other person/s or object/s they chose to betray you with. So… Continue reading Dearest Betrayed
What is Infidelity?
Dr Frank Pittman describes infidelity as “the keeping of secrets”. The longer Dave and I are on this recovery journey, the more we learn about ourselves and others, and the more we connect with betrayed or unfaithful men and women—the more we align with Frank’s description as being truth. If you’ve read our Memoir you’ll… Continue reading What is Infidelity?
Can Leopards Change Their Spots?
Once a Narc, Always a Narc? I’m not so sure. This kind of thinking is too black and white for me and I feel that the mindset only encourages unaccountability and a victim mentality. 2 Timothy 1:7 tells us that “God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but (He… Continue reading Can Leopards Change Their Spots?
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Amazing Grace
GRACE is the unmerited favour of God toward mankind… Grace can’t be bought or earned and none of us is deserving. It’s a free gift borne out of divine love. Billy Graham says “Our human mind, with it’s philosophy of an equal return of favours done, can hardly comprehend the full meaning of this grace… Continue reading Amazing Grace
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Trusting the Process
When Dave and I discovered the Affair Recovery website in 2019, we felt enormous relief that there were people in the world, ‘just like us’. People sitting on both sides of the infidelity fence, ones who wanted and managed to salvage their marriage and also ones who didn’t. We found a well of resources drawn… Continue reading Trusting the Process
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