Don’t you love it when you’re asked what part you played in your partner cheating on you? Like what did you do or didn’t do to make them act out 🤷♀️ Ummmm oh gosh let me see… I was and am faithful, trustworthy, loyal, committed, loving, kind, compassionate, playful, caring, adventurous, I’m a great cook,Continue reading ““But What Did You Do?””
Category Archives: Abuse
Unveiling Truth
Honesty is without a doubt the number one necessity in re-establishing safety post betrayal, without this you’re faced with building your relationship on shifting sands when it requires and deserves rigorous honesty creating the solid bedrock of truth. D Day is a post I wrote in October 2020, I stand by the content while alsoContinue reading “Unveiling Truth”
My Post Traumatic Growth Manifesto
Christmas Eve 2023 marks the 5th anniversary of my life changing forever in ways I never imagined. At first I could barely breathe let alone believe that I would ever write the following words… To anyone on the receiving end of a partners sh**** choices I pray my ramblings offer a glimmer of hope. MyContinue reading “My Post Traumatic Growth Manifesto”
Pornography—Why the Big Deal?
Here’s a couple of questions for anyone in a committed relationship consuming porn. N.B. this is not a post with intent to provoke shame rather one that I hope might encourage users to think beyond the obvious. Q. Is your partner fully aware of what you’re doing—have you casually shared with them that you haveContinue reading “Pornography—Why the Big Deal?”
“You’re lucky it’s only porn” 🤯
This post comes from a place of deep frustration and anger and I’m never sure whether that’s a good reason to hit publish or not but today it’s a yes! Last week I participated in a support group for men and women, all at varying stages of recovery and healing from their partners infidelity. OneContinue reading ““You’re lucky it’s only porn” 🤯”
Hey Affair Partner
I’m not even sure which one I’m writing to at this stage, there’s been a few, so I’m going to start with the ones who knew that the person they became involved with had a partner and a family. If I’m being honest you’re the ones I hold least respect for, you see you knewContinue reading “Hey Affair Partner”
The Secret Sexual Basement
What the heck is this you may ask? The last three years have been quite the learning curve for us as we explore the complexities of infidelity, secrets, lies, duality, and narcissistic abusive behaviours. It’s a learning curve that I never imagined I’d be on—in saying this—I’m thankful that both Dave and I possess aContinue reading “The Secret Sexual Basement”
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With Humility & Gratitude
This is our final blog post for 2021, and wow, what a year it’s been. On top of becoming a first-time co-author, I studied full time and successfully completed a Diploma of Counselling through the Australian Institute of Family Counselling. I’m planning to put this to work in 2022! Here’s a sneak peek at myContinue reading “With Humility & Gratitude”
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Can Leopards Change Their Spots?
Once a Narc, Always a Narc? I’m not so sure. This kind of thinking is too black and white for me and I feel that the mindset only encourages unaccountability and a victim mentality. 2 Timothy 1:7 tells us that “God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but (HeContinue reading “Can Leopards Change Their Spots?”
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