Firstly, please let me acknowledge that I’m so sorry you’re here, however I’m also glad you found the site. Secondly, I just want to let you know that you are not alone and don’t have to go this road on your own.
An affair recovery journey is possibly one of the hardest challenges a marriage will endure. Lies, deception, gaslighting, shattered trust, defensiveness, minimisation, the list can go on forever. Thankfully recovery doesn’t have to take that long.
My own marriage is testament to what is possible when a couple dig in and fully engage in recovery work—once you have the right guidance and tools to steer you on the right path. I’m not going to put any glossy spin on what’s involved, it is hard, hard work and you need to be fully engaged.
There is a road map out of the quagmire and although it can get messy, I can 100% tell you that it’s worth it. Not every marriage will be saved and there are some that just shouldn’t but there are more and more couples resourcing themselves with the tools and support needed to not only survive an affair/s but to really thrive after their relationship has been a blown up by infidelity. (physical affairs, emotional affairs, chat rooms, one night stands, prostitutes, pornography etc they’re all equally as damaging)
If you’re ready to take a step towards recovery
To get an idea of what the process is like, read the following entries from our Beyond Betrayal site where we have documented our recovery process.
You may also like to purchase a copy of our Memoir BEYOND BETRAYAL 28 YEARS—LIES-DECEIT-INFIDELITY.