Who or What Do We Hang Our Hope On?

I’d love to begin with a Happy New Year blog but there’s a burden stirring within so I’m going with that! Over the past twelve months, the world of affair recovery has seen three power couples (for the lack of a better term) sorrowfully reach a point of separation. For those of us who haveContinue reading “Who or What Do We Hang Our Hope On?”

With Humility & Gratitude

This is our final blog post for 2021, and wow, what a year it’s been. On top of becoming a first-time co-author, I studied full time and successfully completed a Diploma of Counselling through the Australian Institute of Family Counselling. I’m planning to put this to work in 2022! Here’s a sneak peek at myContinue reading “With Humility & Gratitude”

Anniversaries & Triggers

Anniversaries and triggers are a painful reality following any traumatic event. Reactions can be variable depending on timing and circumstances, reminders are pretty much unavoidable—triggers may come from out of the blue and can be damn intense, to say the least. We, humans, are an interesting species, we need to attach meaning to almost everything,Continue reading “Anniversaries & Triggers”

Dear Unfaithful

Dear unfaithful, There’s probably a lot in this that you’re not going to want to hear—but you really need to if you want to begin to understand what’s happened. Imagine that you’ve just dropped a nuclear bomb on your marriage, your spouse, yourself and your family.  The world as you once knew has been annihilated—napalmed—andContinue reading “Dear Unfaithful”

Dearest Betrayed

You didn’t deserve this… You did nothing to cause it and there is nothing that you could have done differently to prevent it from happening. Your partners’ betrayal had nothing to do with you, heck it didn’t even have anything to do with the other person/s or object/s they chose to betray you with. SoContinue reading “Dearest Betrayed”

Can Leopards Change Their Spots?

Once a Narc, Always a Narc? I’m not so sure. This kind of thinking is too black and white for me and I feel that the mindset only encourages unaccountability and a victim mentality. 2 Timothy 1:7 tells us that “God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but (HeContinue reading “Can Leopards Change Their Spots?”

Trusting the Process

When Dave and I discovered the Affair Recovery website in 2019, we felt enormous relief that there were people in the world, ‘just like us’. People sitting on both sides of the infidelity fence, ones who wanted and managed to salvage their marriage and also ones who didn’t. We found a well of resources drawnContinue reading “Trusting the Process”

Real Time Recovery pt 2

I honestly wasn’t anticipating the fallout of asking Noni whether something was bothering her after grocery shopping. Sure she was quiet but I still didn’t think it had anything to do with me, I really wasn’t expecting it. Only when she queried what was going on back at the store did I realise that myContinue reading “Real Time Recovery pt 2”

Sobering Figures

I recently stumbled across the Sexual Health Australia site while meandering down the research rabbit hole. According to this organisation, Australias prevalence for extra-marital affairs is that, a whopping 60% of men and 45% of women are willing to report that infidelity has occurred sometime in their marriage. They actually suggest that an accurate figureContinue reading “Sobering Figures”

But What About the AP?

Ahhhhh the affair partner, how many colourful names do we have for them? The dirty rotten pieces of work that they are—damn home-wreckers who set out to destroy our lives! Are they really? Here’s my theory, it may not be a popular one and at the risk of setting a cat amongst the pigeons, I’mContinue reading “But What About the AP?”

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